Love Triangle

My husband once came home and told me about a conversation he had with a co-worker. After my husband mentioned that he and I were both Christians, the co-worker replied, “Wow, that must be great! So whenever you and your wife have a problem or disagreement, you just get on your knees and pray about it together!” My husband and I laughed heartily for a minute. It’s not always THAT easy, but having Christ in our marriage does make a big difference.

On many occasions, my husband and I have both acknowledged that without Christ in our lives, our marriage couldn’t have lasted as long as it has (14 years and counting). We have what many people would call a Christ-centered relationship. But I can tell you now that it doesn’t mean that we never have disagreements or arguments. Like every couple, we’ve had our share of problems. What makes our marriage Christ-centered is that we recognize there’s a third party in our relationship.

A really good friend of mine explained it like this: It’s a love triangle.

Picture the shape of a triangle in your mind. At the very top of the triangle, the apex, there is God. Now at the bottom—in one corner, there’s the husband, and in the other corner, there’s the wife. All 3 are connected. As the husband and wife interact back and forth with one another, they do so with God as their covering. And sometimes they may need to go through God in order to get through to the other.

This line of thought follows the Biblical principle found in 1 Corinthians 11:11–12, which says, “In the Lord, however, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God.”

Are you in a love triangle? Just put God first in your life and at the head of your relationship!

Happy Valentine’s Day!